Diamonds are multifaceted, sparkly, beautiful, rare stones. A great D/s relationship should be very similar. It should be a hard to break, impossible to disintegrate, difficult to destroy. A Dominant and submissive should be in sync, they need to be on the same page. It should be the most trustworthy relationship which anyone has ever been involved. It should sparkle, shine and be something other could and should emulate in their own way. When I say they should emulate it, I don’t mean a carbon copy, they should look at the values, the essence of the relationship, and see what it is that works for them.
All relationships are different, ours is different than yours, and the next great D/s relationship will be different than either yours or ours. This individuality maintains the uniqueness that makes your foundation so perfect for you and your Dominant or submissive. So what exactly makes these relationships shine? There are several things, the best ones always have many different facets.
One facet is trust, I would say this is what gives it the sparkle, With this trust, you can always rely on the person, whether it is your dominant or submissive, that trust goes both ways. It is the crux of your relationship. That trust is imperative and necessary to grow and to flourish. When I say trust, it refers to honesty, to openness, to never withholding information or knowledge. Like opening a book the entire contents are there for you to read. A D/s relationship is exactly that open and disclosed. No holds barred and nothing kept back. The best ones are like that. Both Dom and sub know each other’s strengths and weaknesses, and how to support those strengths and weaknesses.
Another is consistency, to be able to rely on your partner to respond to things in a consistent manner maybe one of the most underrated facets of any relationship. To know that if you make mistakes, (and we all will make them!) that nothing will change. That if you are to meet your sub at 2:30, she will be there, if she is to show up wearing that thong you requested, she will arrive in that thong. That when you tell her she is going to dinner on Saturday, you take her to dinner. Consistency breeds trust. And if by chance you make that mistake of forgetting, you apologize and show some real remorse. It’s not perfection we are after, it’s consistency. It’s a very important branch of all relationships.
Chemistry is something you can’t make happen. Two people either have it or they don’t. That is something you can’t predict, you can’t understand or know until you meet with your soon-to-be partner. When you don’t have it, nothing can make it happen, but when you do, it’s magical. Now that being said, you can start out with minimal chemistry, because you haven’t developed a relationship as of yet. I have seen the chemistry grow. Haven’t you ever known someone who is not handsome/beautiful and as you get to know them they grown more handsome/beautiful as time goes on? I think we all have.
All of those facets, get stirred into a pot and what comes out is love. Love is the stone itself and the qualities of the relationship are what give it it’s luster, it’s shine, it’s unique quality. Without the love, I see no sparkle. It’s the love that makes the Dominant and submissive need to follow all of those things, to know that breaking the trust of their partner would destroy the fiber of the relationship is something that would hurt them as much as their partner. That being inconsistent would confuse them as well. Making them second guess themselves. It’s love of their partner that causes them to need to follow the relationship rules, no matter what. If you tear the cloth of your relationship you can mend it but it usually always has the mend showing. Better to not have to mend something that is pristine.
In Daddy’s and my relationship, we have many different roles. He is my Daddy and Dominant, I am his babygirl, his submissive. He is my best friend and I am his as well. He is my buddy, my partner in crime. We are each others confidants. He is my sadist, I am his masochist at times. We have BDSM times and we have times of making love. We enjoy many of the same things, and we teach each other things all the time. We grow, we learn, and we love with each day. And yes, occasionally, though not often, we argue. We disagree. We don’t see eye to eye. It has been a learning process to trust that Daddy will not leave me and I will not leave him. I have learned to stop before I spill venom like a volcano, to ask questions, to try to understand and he has done the same.
Good relationships take work, great ones take passionate work. The results of this work is a beautifully crafted, multifaceted piece of art. Harder than steel, and more beautiful than any great thing of beauty, a diamond relationship is glorious, brilliant and rare.
I am very fortunate to have a special and rare relationship with Daddy, that is built on trust, consistency, and love. He is my Daddy, friend, lover, dominant, confidant and more. I couldn’t think of anyone else in the world I could have this relationship with besides him. It’s never shallow and always filled with sparkle. We shine brightly and if you look closely, you’ll see our many facets. Shine on Daddy. We’ve only begun to find all of the sides to us.
I love you, respect you, and admire you. All the days of my life are yours now,